There are good and bad days in every life journey regardless of whether you have a debilitating illness or not. Sometimes those bad days are going to be compounded by bad events or just normal events that don’t go the way you expect. One example for us is that I have nights when I don’t sleep well. They are usually followed by days when I am edgy and a little cranky. This is okay as long as my husband is having a good day and we don’t have anything extra on our schedule. If, on the other hand, he is also tired or just having a bad day, things can spiral down quickly to the point that even normal interactions become challenging.

On those tough days I find that if I can remember to take a moment and look around me to find something I am grateful for, it can help get me back on track. It may something as basic as looking up to the sun if it is shining or appreciating the rain that keeps our trees green if it’s not. Sometimes I just need to remember the simple fact that we are still here and still together.  This is the source of my resilience, the idea that no matter what life brings I can still find things to be thankful for. I can find those positive things around me that will help us make it through any difficulties of today with the hope that tomorrow will be better.