I am familiar with the philosophies of several different 12 step programs, having helped others as they faced their demons over the years, and completely agree with the concept that you must believe in something bigger than yourself. For some the belief focuses on a god or goddess figure, for others it may be science and this incredible natural environment that we live in. I think for me it is a combination of the two, as I find myself looking to the universe for divine guidance.

Many of my friends in the PD community have ties to churches through their faith, I used to be connected to a local congregation but have let it go. It was a good community but I felt that I was living a lie since my questions often outnumbered the answers I was finding there. Instead I find strength in my loving relationship with my husband and in the amazing PD community that surrounds us. It brings me peace to know that when something challenging happens, I can reach out to others who are facing similar issues for understanding, help and hope.

My foundation is the love I see on my husband’s face when we wake every day and the friendship and support I get from friends and family. While some programs encourage 12 steps, the only steps I needed to take in my life were to accept that I couldn’t face this alone, then to reach out to the strength and love of the people around me. I will always be so thankful that I did.