Often it is so much easier to do things myself. No one there to question whether it is the right thing to do or not, no differing opinion on the outcome, just me and my way and it’s done. But, many of the things I am doing now as a CarePartner impact more than me, meaning that my husband may want or need to provide input. That complicates matters.

My husband has always been my partner in everything we do. It seems like PD is trying to put a wedge between us as it limits his abilities. He tires more quickly and can’t accomplish many of the tasks he once did. This puts more of a strain on me as I try to keep up with everything, but just can’t physically do many of the things he did in the same way he did them.

What is the best way to handle those situations when he and I differ on approaches to problems? Do I get to just go ahead and do it my way hoping it works out, or do I need to talk with him about it first? Is it okay if I still do it my way then since I’m the one doing it? Or, do I really need to look for his input and take the time to discuss how we are going to move forward, knowing that it may be the more difficult answer for me?

My husband does not show any cognitive decline from PD which is truly wonderful. I need to remember that he does still have a mind and opinions that need to be heard. Since this journey with PD is primarily his, it is essential that he be an active partner in our daily lives. It is my job to understand that he should provide input and acknowledge that sometimes he may know best. Then I can take that input, modify it to match my capabilities, and find the option that allows us to move forward in a safe and positive way.