Stress comes at us in so many different ways and we are so busy trying to be patient with our partners that we don’t always see it happening. In this moment, I am very stressed about something I saw on the internet. I recognize where the stress is coming from but am not sure how to redirect it and make it positive. I think the first step is to walk away from the source, but then how do I let go of the stressful thoughts and move forward?

When I am faced with something that stresses me out, I try to find the source, take a couple of deep breathes and begin the process of letting it go. One technique I learned a long time ago is to ask myself if this will matter in 5 years? More often than not, the answer is that I won’t even remember it in 5 years making it easier to laugh and let it go. When that doesn’t work, I try to physically move myself into doing something more positive. I know that when my body is involved in a positive activity, my brain will eventually follow. This may be something as simple as making myself and my partner a cup of tea. Anything that will derail me from the original train of thought so I can begin again in a more positive direction.

Being a CarePartner is an interesting journey without adding unnecessary stress. I am learning to avoid things that can be triggers for drama and search out the things that sooth my soul. I am a fan of yoga, cozy mysteries and light jazz music. I like scented candles and warm fires. There will always be stressful times in my life and if I can continue to be conscientious about providing time for soothing activities, I will be ready when it strikes.