We watched a program last night where one of the characters was taking a 20 day “no complaining” challenge. His premise was that by not complaining he would instead find gratitude and greater happiness. While it is important to recognize all feelings you have, if there is a way to let complaints go and instead focus on gratitude it makes sense that you, and those around you, will be happier.

It is surprising how often I catch myself complaining during a normal day. Or, better still, how often I sense a terseness in my interactions with others. I hear words coming out of my mouth that I don’t recall thinking and yet there they are. I realize that I am allowing my negative reaction to express itself without regard for the feelings of others. I am being unkind, and I don’t like it!

If I can train myself to stop and take a breath before reacting, I can take the time to look for something to be grateful for. It may be the knowledge that I am in a difficult situation or don’t want to do this again, but if I try I know I can find a positive view. Making a mistake, having a disagreement, getting frustrated about nothing- all of these things can be constructive if I don’t let negativity take over and instead focus on personal growth and learning. Today I will stop complaining and focus on gratitude in all my interactions to find the positive side and see how much I can learn.