What would that look like? Something, anything, unexpected and kind. Maybe cooking their favorite meal or a special treat? Maybe taking a walk or playing a game? Maybe you could write a love note they will find? Whatever you decide to do for them, make sure that it is something different from daily living activities, then do it and enjoy the reaction.

Surprising my husband with anything is difficult because he is with me all the time. I have learned that buying things doesn’t work because he is very particular about his clothing and shoes. He does not like spontaneous gestures. So instead, I will come up behind him and rub his shoulders for him or catch him when he is dressing and scratch his back. I will slip my hand into his while we are walking or sit next to him and cuddle when he doesn’t expect it. When he seems to be having a particularly difficult time, I may catch hold of him and give a kiss just to break the tension and give a fresh start.

Those little kindnesses are good for me too. They remind me to think beyond the daily chores and remember to inject fun into our lives. Reconnecting with our love always lightens my heart and makes my tasks go so much better. It never hurts for me to revisit the “why” that keeps me getting out of bed each day and continuing on this journey.