As I sit down to write about flexibility, certain thoughts come to me like physical activity and open mindedness, adaptability and willingness to try new things, compassion and understanding, acceptance and positive focus. What exactly does it mean to be flexible in body and mind and what will it take for me to get there?

There are basics, the better my body feels, the better my mind functions. If I am stiff and achy, I get caught up in my own stuff and am not fully here for my husband. If, on the other hand, I have a regular exercise program I feel healthier and am stronger when it is needed. Yoga is great for relaxing and stretching but I also find that I need some aerobic and light weight lifting somewhere in the week to keep my body ready for any upcoming challenges.

Flexibility in the mind is a much more challenging concept for me. It started with my acceptance of his diagnosis and the willingness to try new things as his capabilities change. I have to be ready to understand that I may need to overlook certain things to see beyond the disease to find the man I love. I work to remain open to finding new and constructive ways to support him as he struggles through the progression of his symptoms without letting my own feelings get in the way.

There will be changes including some losses along the way, but I will find and maintain flexibility so I can adapt to whatever life brings as we lovingly continue our journey in positive directions.