We all have them, the daily list of chores or the “have to”s in our lives. I have to take care of our pets, I have to plan and cook our meals, I have to keep the clutter down to a minimum in our house. Then there is my other list, my “want to”s. I want to go shopping and just wander without a purpose, I want to find a shady seat and read, I want to have a moment of peace without worrying about anyone or anything else. When do I fit those in?

I find that I need to be careful though, because adding a “want to” to your schedule can lead to more “have to”s. I wanted to have a garden, a few tomato plants, maybe some beans and peppers. So, early this spring I actually did it, I cultivated soil, planted seeds and, sure enough, I have a garden. Now I have to water it every other day or it will die. My “want to” became one more “have to” and, while it did bring some joy, I am not sure it worked out the way I expected.

I have decided to make a “want to” list. If I prioritize and decide which things I can make happen today, would it be possible to work them into my schedule? Are they ongoing (like gardening) and, if so, will I still want to do them in the future? I currently have two times during the day that are mine, first thing after breakfast when I write and the hour after lunch while my husband naps. Perhaps I can use those opportunities to meet some of my “want to”s without adding to the “have to”s and find the balance I need in my life.