We are in the process of getting our house ready for winter. I have “fed” the lawns, rolled up the hoses and covered the outside faucets. We are working on raking and mulching the leaves for our flower and garden beds. Thank goodness we don’t have to clean gutters anymore, they have screens. We hired a chimney sweep and now all that is left is to treat the roof for moss, I’ll be calling someone later this week to do that for us.

There are many things that I can do, some that I enjoy and others that I do simply because they need to get done. The point is that I do them and we move on. So, why is it that when I come up against something that I can’t do, I feel like I am failing?

My husband once told me “just because you can do something, doesn’t mean you should” and he was right. Case in point, we have a light on the front of our garage that needs a bulb changed out. I have tried to do this before and it was just too much. The bulb wouldn’t come out and the ladder felt unsteady. This is such a minor job, yet it needs to be done and I don’t really want to have to pay for an electrician.

Instead, I have decided to call my son and ask for his help. The light hasn’t been a problem during the summer months but we do need it working as the days get shorter. I need to accept that there will always be things I need help with and understand that asking doesn’t make me weaker, it makes me human. I don’t need to be super woman, just super CarePartner as we move ahead in our journey.