It has been a difficult year, finding ways to meet my personal needs while in a locked down environment with my husband due to the pandemic. I miss our social interactions both in and out of our PD network because they gave me a sense of belonging. I miss being able to do my volunteer work because it gave me a sense of purpose. I miss being able to go out for fun because it made me feel alive.

It hasn’t all been bad, I am using the internet more to connect with others for that sense of belonging and know we will be together again someday. I haven’t found a replacement for my volunteer work, but have gotten involved in additional projects here at home that help with my sense of purpose and get me out of bed in the mornings. I am learning to look for fun in new and different ways and to take advantage of every opportunity that comes my way. We have been using takeout and outdoor dining to explore restaurants in our area.

I know I am the least effective as a carepartner when I am not taking good care of myself. If I am tired, hungry, or just feeling out of sorts, it is reflected in my interactions with my husband and that is not good for either of us. I need to do whatever I can to make sure that I am healthy in both mind and body, and that my needs are met so that I can be here for him when his needs exceed his capabilities, I know he would do it for me. If that means ZOOM meetings and takeout, so be it, I’ll get through.