They say we learn from our mistakes and I think that is why our brains are hard wired to hold on to bad things more than good. It is easy for me to remember when I grumped at my husband yesterday, it is harder for me to pick out a time when I was kind and loving. And that is not because it happened any less, it is just that we focus on areas we need to change or improve and not on when we are already doing the right thing.

I have been told to take time every night before bed to think of three things I am thankful for from my day. I have realized that it is more important for me to think about three things that I did well or right during my day. If I can shift my focus from the negative to the positive, it helps me let go and find peace.

Yes, I will make mistakes and it is important that I learn from them. If I am going to hold myself responsible for everything that goes wrong in our days, I need to also acknowledge and celebrate the things that went right, no matter how small they are. And, as I begin to recognize when I am doing things right for my husband, the things that go wrong will take less importance. Days that are filled with positive, not negative feelings, will result in a more pleasant journey for both of us.