Sharing laughter with my husband lightens the load for both of us and resets our relationship. I know that he hears a lot of dictatorial comments from me, stand up straight, walk with purpose, stop mumbling so, when we can take a moment to enjoy something together it really helps. What I find to be even more helpful in my role as CarePartner are those spontaneous moments that bring on a smile for no reason at all.

There is a pot of calendula in our backyard that blooms year-round. Whenever I look out at those golden blooms, I have to smile. The resilience and openness that these blossoms represent is a reminder of how I want to live my life. The moment is accompanied by a feeling of release, a lightening of my spirit. It takes only a few seconds but can refresh my perspective on even the darkest of days.

Other opportunities for finding moments of personal peace include snuggling with our cat, watching the hawks circling in the field behind our house, noticing my husband as he naps or reads. These private moments always bring a smile to my face, warmth to my heart and make each challenge just a little bit easier to face.