We work out with a coach who has us repeat positive affirmations during every session. We say things like “I am amazing” and then she explains that we are amazing because we keep showing up to class even on days when we are tired or unmotivated. Tying the positive affirmations to our actions gives us reasons to believe what we are saying and adds meaning to the words. 

This same principal comes into play when I am struggling with my role as CarePartner. There are days when I feel like I do nothing right and that the tasks are never-ending. I could stop then to tell myself how wonderful I am, but it would be a meaningless exercise for me. Instead, I take a moment, take a deep breath, and remind myself that I am resilient. I rejoice in the fact that, although I am having a tough day, I am still standing and trying to move forward. I commend myself for having patience and determination. My positive affirmation is customized based on where I am in that moment which gives it meaning.

False affirmations are just like false praise and, while they may distract me, they will not reenergize me for the day ahead. Acknowledging the real strengths I possess helps me develop and maintain my positive mindset. I am not always fabulous or creative, but I truly am amazing because I am open to all the challenges being a CarePartner for someone with Parkinson’s Disease brings to my life.