Wow, things happen at our house that really are upsetting at times, and I do my best to remain calm, but it can be tough. I was having one of those days recently and then that “one more thing” happened that totally put me over the edge. I was at my wit’s end and the only safe response seemed to be to scream to release the energy rather like a teapot. I realized that while screaming might be my best solution, it would probably just serve to increase my husband’s stress levels so I held it in. As soon as I could get away, I went for a short drive where I was able to express myself safely. My fellow drivers might have wondered what the noise was but it certainly gave me the opportunity to release a lot of pent-up energy. By the time I finished, I was no longer yelling but instead found myself singing along with the radio. I arrived back at the house refreshed and ready to start again.

I have several tricks that I have developed that work as stress breakers. One is, of course, writing. If I can express my frustration in words, I can alleviate much of the power it holds over me. Another release is reading. When life gets too overwhelming I escape into a good book. I find that lighter cozy mysteries are great at diverting my attention away from whatever is bothering me here at home. When the book doesn’t work, I move to video games, anything that requires my entire focus. Another easy escape for me is to go outside. Pulling weeds is a great way to let go of my worries. The fresh air clears out my residue anger or frustration and often provides a different perspective.

When life gets too crazy, it is essential that I find ways to take care of me. If that means running away for a few minutes into a good book, outside to my garden, or even further for a drive to yell it out, then so be it. Better I should scream at the car than scream at my husband for things he cannot control. My mental health matters, I will make sure to keep it as a priority on my journey.