It happened again yesterday; my husband asked me to help him with something and before I could get to him, he was already doing it. I get that he needs to do things for himself whenever he can but wish that he would respect the fact that once he asks me for help it may take me a moment to get there. Just as I need to be patient with him, I would ask that he give me the same consideration.

If only my husband would understand that I am not always able to jump when he calls for help. It may be that I am in another room, or it may be that my body isn’t as quick as it used to be, whatever the reason I am doing my best to respond. I will be there for him, but it may have to be on my timeline, not his. I won’t leave him hanging, it’s just that I need to shift gears from whatever I am doing to whatever he needs. If it is a true emergency I’ll be there immediately, otherwise it may take just a moment.

When he asks me for help then goes ahead anyway without me, it makes me feel unappreciated and yes, even angry at times. I try not to take it personally, but instead understand that he is used to doing things by himself and having to wait for someone else is not normal for him. I want him to trust that I will always be there for him as soon as possible, it may take me a minute though. If he can remember to show me a little patience, I will do the same for him, and both of us can have our needs met in a timely manner.