I wake up each day wondering what will happen today. I wonder if my husband will be having a good day or bad day and will that impact any plans we might have. I wonder if any additional challenges we had yesterday will still be present. I wonder what surprises Mr. Parkinson’s disease might have in store for us and it worries me. I have developed a simple way to alleviate these concerns that I call my Four A’s.

Assess, Accept, Adapt, Adopt, these Four A’s have become a format for moving forward in my journey. It started way back when my husband was first diagnosed and we had to Assess our understanding and abilities as changes started coming. We had to learn to Accept the new direction in our lives thanks to his diagnosis of Parkinson’s. Many of the things we now do are Adaptations of what we used to do, modifications that we have Adopted to make life easier.

It starts every morning with a simple question, “How are you feeling today?” Once I have his input, I can start looking at our schedule and we can discuss whether it is reasonable or might need to be changed. I know that things can change mid-day so I always have to keep a bit of flexibility in any plans. I Assess his capabilities today, Accept where we are in this moment, Adapt to fit the situation and Adopt the new reality moving forward. I use this on a daily basis, sometimes on an hourly basis. Other times I use this same process when bigger life changes have happened. It’s calming to know that I have a system that works to help me move forward in such uncertain circumstances.