My tasks around the house are mostly routine and often boring. I cook, clean, shop, take care of our cat, fix things as needed, do minimal yardwork, but most of all I provide 24/7 assistance as needed for my husband. Yes, there are times when I wonder why I do it all. Then I look over at my husband and see his smile. I know exactly why as I remember what matters most.

Finding ways to be positive about housework isn’t tough because I am more comfortable in a tidy house. I know that keeping things sorted and put away is safer and means less stress for both of us. The more difficult question is how do I put a positive spin on some of the things I am asked to do for my husband? Quite simply, I tackle them with a smile and get them done so we can move on. It’s not his fault that he can’t manage certain tasks and I am truly happy that I am here and able to help. We make up funny names for unpleasant duties which seems to lighten the mood. Injecting humor in difficult challenges makes them easier for both of us to handle.

I sometimes forget that being a Parkinson’s CarePartner can be a somewhat unique opportunity. I get to see firsthand what this disease does to my soul mate and yet I still get out of bed every morning to face it with him. I get to modify plans and adapt our lives to a different reality that brings out the best and the worst in me depending on the day. I get to learn new lessons in compassion, patience, and resilience. Most importantly, I get to continue spending my life with the most amazing man I have ever known. The work can be heartbreaking as I watch his struggles, but it also brings unexpected rewards if I only know where to look.