We were having a family dinner a while back and started discussing politics, something we mostly agree on. I shared that we have friends who don’t necessarily hold the same ideas in our PD network and it is interesting to consider how they come to their views. Someone said that they believe all of their friends are of the same mindset, that is the connection that brings them together. In that moment I discovered another reason to be thankful for my husband’s diagnosis. It broadens my world to include those who may not have the same philosophical beliefs yet who share a common enemy, Parkinson’s Disease.

This disease isn’t selective so the people in our Parkinson’s community come from all different lifestyles and backgrounds. It’s easy to discuss the common thread that brought us together which is our hatred of PD, it’s not so easy to talk about current events. I do think that topic could lead to some very interesting conversations. I wouldn’t want to see our different viewpoints split us up because I need these folks in my life. While I would like to know them better as individuals and let them know me, I’m not sure quite how to make that happen.

The greatest value of being a part of this community comes from our shared experiences. I can talk openly about challenges I face in caring for my husband and ask their advice with difficult decisions. It is great when I can pick their brain on practical issues as well. They often have knowledge that can help me with daily challenges outside the PD world. Maybe someday we can find a way to respectfully discuss our differences and, I suspect, agree to disagree. The support we give each other is based on values and compassion that go beyond thoughts of politics or religion. In this friendship, does the rest really matter?