This morning I find myself caught up in negative thoughts and worries, anticipating problems before they happen. We have a project to do here at the house. I want to do it myself, but my husband wants to help, which I think will be a problem. We often have very different approaches to things and I expect that he will want to do things his way; he does like to be in charge. It makes me nervous having him watch, as I am sure that I will have a very different idea of how this should be done.
If I stay in this mindset, we will not get anything done and it will end up being a stressful day. However, I can choose to look beyond my negative state of mind and communicate my concerns with him. If I listen to his years of experience, perhaps we can both find that there is a positive side to the situation, as we work through to a joint solution. I just need to have faith that things can go right as long as we work together, and be thankful he is here to help, not push him away.
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Speaking for myself, those differences of opinion about how to do things are always a part of relationship. My thought is it gets harder as roles change.
Take care.
Sis
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But darn it, shouldn’t Charlie know by now that I am always right?
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I often find that I am going ahead with small decisions and actions without him because it just takes so much longer to involve him. I need to be careful with that because sometimes they pile up and he ends up feeling ignored and left out. It is hard when I feel there is so much on my plate.
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I know what you mean. There are often times when I just do things while he is napping and hope he won’t find out.
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This post reminds me of a similar situation Kim and I went through with changing an electric outlet. It turns out we were both correct in different aspects. When we took a minute to really listen to what the other was saying we were successful in getting it done. Hard as it is to believe I’m not always right.
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I hear you, Charlie loves it when I have to admit I was wrong about something so I really try not to have it happen too often.
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