Harmony, as defined by Merriam-Webster, is congruence or a pleasing arrangement of parts, it is agreement and it can also define a state of tranquility. Usually referring to music, it involves the simultaneous blending of more than one voice to create something fuller and stronger. Isn’t this a great definition of what I, as a CarePartner, should strive for in my life?

I always have been a perfectionist, pushing myself to do more and better, never quite feeling like I had done enough. The concept of bringing harmony into my life is challenging for me because it asks me to slow down and invite my partner to “harmonize” with me. I need to provide the space for his voice and accept a joint approach to our life that involves coordination and even compromise, things I often struggle with.

I want tranquility and peace in my home. I have to admit that it is nice when we can share the responsibilities, the challenges, and the rewards of daily living. In order to do that, I think that I will stop trying to be the diva. Instead, I will work to be a part of the duet so that we can move forward together in harmony and love.