You may find out you are more capable than you thought. Even though new challenges that come up on my journey can be scary, I have learned that usually I can manage them. And, even if I try and fail, the world won’t come to an end. Generally these are things that have to do with my ever growing role of homeowner and not in caring for my husband. Let me share a couple of examples.

Our television is dying and we are going to need to replace it. My husband’s first comment was, “You do realize how complicated it will be to change out the tv? You should call our son and let him go with you to the store. Then he can come and help you set it up.” I don’t think he realizes I bought the current set on my own and have been maintaining it through multiple changes over the past few years. He is just trying to be helpful but I’m not sure I need it.

The second example came last week. We recently had some work done in our garage and it involved taking down our 4’ X 4’ pegboard tool rack. I wanted the rack put back up on a different wall. I thought about asking our contractor to do it but it seemed like such an easy task. My husband offered to help hold it while I put it up, which could have worked, but I wasn’t completely comfortable with that idea. I found a better solution by using a table to hold the board until I could mount it to the wall and had it done in about half an hour.

In both of these situations, I could have depended on someone else, but by doing them myself I am able to control when it happens and can stop should I find it actually is beyond my capabilities. I hung the pegboard, let’s see how buying a new tv goes. I think I’ve got it.