What more do I need to say? There is so much that always needs to be done and only so much time, it often seems I can’t possibly complete my to-do list and care for my husband. The house, the yard, the husband, which comes first? I know it’s obvious that he has to be my top priority yet there are times when I just have to tell him to sit down and not need anything for a while because I have a task I must address elsewhere. It usually works.

I have started taking a moment every night after I go to bed to think about what I accomplished that day. It helps me to understand that even though it may not seem like I’m getting anything done, a lot actually is happening. I include the basics, the meals I cook, the support I give my husband, the things I do around the house. Then I try to think about what I did for myself. It could be the walk I took around the block or the 10 minutes I got to sit outside and enjoy the sunshine. Listing what I was able to do each day helps me let go of what I wasn’t able to get to and sometimes helps me sleep better.

I have accepted that I will never finish all my tasks on any given day, that is an impossible goal. Instead I am working on acknowledging what I did accomplish and understanding that it will have to be enough. I am always doing the best I can in a difficult situation and the rest can wait. It’s job security after all.