There are times, like today, when all I want is for someone to give me a great big hug and tell me that it’s all going to be okay. It’s weird because today hasn’t been a difficult day, no falls or major incidents, yet I just feel the need to let go and let someone else take over for a minute. I really think that having just that minute would be enough for me to release the pressure that builds up. Then I could get on with my day.   

I could turn to my husband, but then I feel guilty because he thinks my stress is all his fault. It’s not. Let me say that again, I know it’s not. I don’t blame him for this disease and the challenges it has brought, nor for the additional responsibilities I have taken on around our house. I see his struggles and the strength he needs to keep going on a daily basis. I certainly don’t want to be a drain for him. Unfortunately, unless I go knock on the neighbor’s door, there’s no one else around and I’m pretty sure they wouldn’t understand.

So, I find a quiet time when I can come to my room, take off my superwoman cape, and let go of all the expectations and duties. I take that minute I need to practice self-calming techniques. I close my eyes and breathe deeply, I massage my face and hands, especially those acupressure points between my eyebrows and between my thumb and forefinger. I wrap my arms around myself and say the words, “you’re okay today” because I know it’s true. I am strong enough to face whatever life as a CarePartner decides to throw at me, I just don’t have to be all the time.

For more information on acupressure points visit the Healthline webpage Pressure Points for Anxiety; additional information on breathing techniques can be found at Relieving Stress in the Moment by Livongo-zen.com.